Bragging rights, “those conversations” and loving your ordinary kid

I’m reading this book right now called Shut Up About Your Perfect Kid!: A Survival Guide for Ordinary Parents of Special Kids By Gina Gallagher and Patricia Konjoian. I bought this book in a particularly low, snarky, and impulsive moment…because—please understand—I really don’t want people to shut up about their “perfect” kids… …I just wish … [Read more…]

I hate disclosure (but here’s why I do it anyway)

“How’d Benji do?” I asked the volunteer chess leader, a middle age man with a beard and thick glasses. I had dropped off my twins, Benji and Micah, an hour ago at the library chess club, our first time visiting. Well, “dropped off” is generous: I stayed at the library the whole time they were … [Read more…]

Autism is not a tragedy

A reoccurring conversation that I frequently see on Social Media is the dreaded Autism and vaccines debate. This is a vehemently polarizing issue, but I’ll let you know my stance right off the bat: from my research, I believe that Autism is primarily genetic and/or caused by complications in utero, not by outside influences, such … [Read more…]

I need Incarnational Love for my child

I am terrible at learning languages. I quit Spanish 102 because I just couldn’t get it, even after summer tutoring, on-campus tutoring, getting help from the professor, and take-home tests. I was a failure and I gave up. I once heard an Autistic man describe Autism as being in a foreign country where you don’t … [Read more…]

Letting in the Light

It was a personality test that broke me, a stupid internet quiz. My Myers-Briggs had never failed me before. ENFJ all the way, baby. Every description, no matter the unique context, (“What should you read next according to your Myers-Brigg personality test?” or “What your Myers-Briggs test says about what kind of friend you are?”) … [Read more…]