What does success look like?…10 years after college graduation

Some of the dear young women that I mentor graduated from college last week. I warned them, from their early college years, that it would go by in two blinks. They humored me but inwardly moaned. Graduation seemed agonizingly far away. They just wanted to hurry up and get on with life. But, now they … [Read more…]

When I ask myself “Why did I want to have kids??”

I always knew I wanted to be a mom. I played baby dolls until I was way too old for baby dolls and frequently had conversations with my sisters about what we would name our future children (“You cannot pick ‘Lydia!’ I already picked that name!”). It all seemed very rosy and romantic, motherhood. I … [Read more…]

Tipping over the scales: Finding grace when you feel like you just can’t get it right

I keep this silent tally in my head: “Oh, good job. You were patient and gentle with him. Good parenting moment.” “That was bad…really bad. You lost your temper AGAIN. Bad parenting, right there!” In my mind I see the scales, tipping back and forth, hoping that the good outweighs the bad and I can … [Read more…]

For this Dog I prayed

We got a dog. His name is Gus. He’s half lab, half dachshund (a labraweenie!) and he’s really, really great. I’m actually surprised at how much I like him…or even L-word him? (really? Am I there already?!) We’ve been talking about getting a dog for a long time, but it never seemed like the right … [Read more…]

God is not at the top of my priority list

I read an article a few days ago about how to have a healthy marriage. The title was intriguing but the content left me confused (and ultimately disappointed). The author’s first point was to make sure your priorities are in order: “Put God First,” she wrote. “Then husband, then children.” She assured readers that if … [Read more…]

What do you do when you want to stop caring?

I open my computer and scroll through my Facebook feed. My heart sinks and my body feels physically heavy. Rape Shootings Terrorism People killing animals Animals killing children Rants and blog responses and hateful comment threads I usually avoid throwing myself into the middle of controversies. I avoid publicly taking sides. I pray in the … [Read more…]