What does success look like?…10 years after college graduation

Some of the dear young women that I mentor graduated from college last week. I warned them, from their early college years, that it would go by in two blinks. They humored me but inwardly moaned. Graduation seemed agonizingly far away. They just wanted to hurry up and get on with life. But, now they … [Read more…]

When I ask myself “Why did I want to have kids??”

I always knew I wanted to be a mom. I played baby dolls until I was way too old for baby dolls and frequently had conversations with my sisters about what we would name our future children (“You cannot pick ‘Lydia!’ I already picked that name!”). It all seemed very rosy and romantic, motherhood. I … [Read more…]

Talk to me about Transitions

“You’re shaking. Are you cold?” My husband asked anxiously. I exhaled deeply, the contraction loosening its grip on my body. “No,” I assured him. “It’s normal.” I’m in transition For a laboring woman, “transition” is often the most difficult part of labor. I experienced shaking and sweating as my contractions intensified, crashing down on me … [Read more…]

Do the Next Best Thing

I remember when I was teaching English Literature and Writing online and students would email me, somewhere around week five of the eight week course, completely overwhelmed. They were behind. They felt out of their element. They were paralyzed. As best as I could, via email (that wonderful, sterile communication medium), I tried to breathe … [Read more…]

I’m a Stay at Home Mom with Student Loan Debt

Earlier this week, I spent nearly three hours on the phone and online trying to consolidate my student loans. The Navient customer service lady was personal and helpful. The application process was smooth. The process went better than I expected. When I was finished I felt both relieved and completely depressed. It’s 2017, ten years … [Read more…]

For this Dog I prayed

We got a dog. His name is Gus. He’s half lab, half dachshund (a labraweenie!) and he’s really, really great. I’m actually surprised at how much I like him…or even L-word him? (really? Am I there already?!) We’ve been talking about getting a dog for a long time, but it never seemed like the right … [Read more…]

8 GREAT things about having ALL BOYS

It happens so often that I have a “line”–a go-to phrase–when I tell people I have four boys. “Four boys? Wow!” “Yes, exactly. That’s what I say every day: WOW,” complete with a stunned, (yet staged) wide-eyed look. It never fails to make people chuckle. My 9 year old twins have a line too:  “We … [Read more…]