Crunchy or Soggy? The Problem with Parenting Ideologies

“I mean, I’m crunchy, but I’m not that crunchy,” she said. “Crunchy?” I frowned, laughing slightly. “What’s that?” I was 22 and newly pregnant (though I didn’t know it was twins yet!) when I had this conversation with my sister-in-law. She is more than ten years older than me and already had two kids of … [Read more…]

The Grace We Can’t Give Ourselves

I don’t usually write “Response” posts to things that are immediately happening in my life, but I’m going to today. Maybe because my filter has been rubbed thin by the weight of my own pain. Maybe because this is an issue that I struggle with myself. But here it goes. I started homeschooling last week. … [Read more…]

Bragging rights, “those conversations” and loving your ordinary kid

I’m reading this book right now called Shut Up About Your Perfect Kid!: A Survival Guide for Ordinary Parents of Special Kids By Gina Gallagher and Patricia Konjoian. I bought this book in a particularly low, snarky, and impulsive moment…because—please understand—I really don’t want people to shut up about their “perfect” kids… …I just wish … [Read more…]