What does success look like?…10 years after college graduation

Some of the dear young women that I mentor graduated from college last week. I warned them, from their early college years, that it would go by in two blinks. They humored me but inwardly moaned. Graduation seemed agonizingly far away. They just wanted to hurry up and get on with life. But, now they … [Read more…]

When I ask myself “Why did I want to have kids??”

I always knew I wanted to be a mom. I played baby dolls until I was way too old for baby dolls and frequently had conversations with my sisters about what we would name our future children (“You cannot pick ‘Lydia!’ I already picked that name!”). It all seemed very rosy and romantic, motherhood. I … [Read more…]

Talk to me about Transitions

“You’re shaking. Are you cold?” My husband asked anxiously. I exhaled deeply, the contraction loosening its grip on my body. “No,” I assured him. “It’s normal.” I’m in transition For a laboring woman, “transition” is often the most difficult part of labor. I experienced shaking and sweating as my contractions intensified, crashing down on me … [Read more…]

Letting in the Light

It was a personality test that broke me, a stupid internet quiz. My Myers-Briggs had never failed me before. ENFJ all the way, baby. Every description, no matter the unique context, (“What should you read next according to your Myers-Brigg personality test?” or “What your Myers-Briggs test says about what kind of friend you are?”) … [Read more…]

How I’m learning to love my body after four kids

My husband borrowed my sewing tape measure the other night to measure himself for his military uniforms. On a whim, I measured myself too, remembering all the times my seamstress mother wrapped the soft tape around my bust, waist, and hips throughout my teenage and young adult years. I’d memorized my “normal” numbers, easily rattling … [Read more…]

Am I cut out for being a military wife?

It’s gettin’ real, folks, this Air Force thing. My husband is going to Officer Training School in nine weeks and we are moving this June. I expect the wide-eyed “WOW!!” when I tell people about our plans. I see their eyes though. Their eyes say, “Woah. You’re insane, girl. How are you going to handle … [Read more…]

I’m a Stay at Home Mom with Student Loan Debt

Earlier this week, I spent nearly three hours on the phone and online trying to consolidate my student loans. The Navient customer service lady was personal and helpful. The application process was smooth. The process went better than I expected. When I was finished I felt both relieved and completely depressed. It’s 2017, ten years … [Read more…]