10 things I just don’t give a crap about anymore after 10 years of parenthood

I have been a mother for almost 10 years—TEN YEARS! It’s true. My twins will be 10 years old in a few weeks. There are SO many expectations that we hold for ourselves as parents or that society places upon us about food, clothes, play, sleep, school, toys, etc. etc. etc. to infinity (and beyond!). … [Read more…]

It’s good to have a Plan

On Tuesday night Aaron was gone all evening refereeing two soccer matches. I usually hate these evenings. They are long, tedious, and loud as I count the minutes until Aaron gets home or bedtime, whichever comes first. I could feel that familiar dread coming on but instead of drowning in it, I decided to make … [Read more…]

Tipping over the scales: Finding grace when you feel like you just can’t get it right

I keep this silent tally in my head: “Oh, good job. You were patient and gentle with him. Good parenting moment.” “That was bad…really bad. You lost your temper AGAIN. Bad parenting, right there!” In my mind I see the scales, tipping back and forth, hoping that the good outweighs the bad and I can … [Read more…]