Day 28: The way to his heart is through his stomach

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Earlier this fall, I was a part of a panel for an organization called “The Motherhood Collective.” The discussion that day was “How we eat.”
As a panel of 4-5 women, we talked about how our families eat, how we meal plan, and what food means to us to guide a larger discussion for the whole meeting that day.

One of the questions was: “What is your favorite meal to make?”

I personally don’t have a favorite, but I do really like cooking meals that make people happy.

And there is a little boy in my family that I struggle to find a happy connection with…but making his favorite foods is one way that I can consistently please him.

This is how I answered that question:

Lately, I have found a lot of joy in making Benji’s favorite meals because it’s a way for me to connect with him. He expresses a lot of love and enthusiasm for his favorite foods and it is one of the only ways that I feel that we have a mutual connection right now. (writing that down makes me kind of sad, but if I can reach that boy’s heart through this stomach then….I’m gonna do it!)

I often throw out lines of love to him but I fail. I feel confused, not knowing how to reach his heart or connect to him.

But when I make his favorite meals, I know he feels loved.

When I tell him that I am making Cheeseburger soup, or Chicken Broccoli and Rice Casserole, or Breakfast Burritos (see recipe below!), he does a little happy dance.
He grins and make his signature happy slurp noise, his taste buds already salivating.

And I feel loved because I know that he is happy, even if he never says, “Mom, thanks for making my favorite foods.” (Because he doesn’t).

SeekingRelationship2I know that food is a line of love that consistently  catches his heart and draws him to me.

The way to that boy’s heart is through his stomach.
And that makes us both happy.

Here’s one of his favorite meals (great for breakfast or dinner!):

Benji’s Breakfast Burritos
Burrito size flour tortillas
Eggs +milk
Bulk breakfast sausage
Shredded Cheese (I like casserole or Mexican blend cheese)
Salsa (optional)

Make it:
Preheat oven to 400.
Make scrambled eggs (1 egg per burrito), your favorite way. I like to season our eggs with salt, pepper, onion and garlic powder, and a pinch of mustard powder.
Cook sausage until brown. Drain fat.
Warm tortillas in the microwave until soft.
Add eggs, sausage, and shredded cheese to each tortilla. Fold and roll tortilla around egg/sausage mixture, tucking in both ends. Repeat.
Eat immediately OR place burritos in a casserole dish, cover tightly with foil, and warm for 10-15 minutes or until cheese is melted.
Serve with salsa.



  1. […] I made breakfast burritos for my family for dinner. I graded some papers and prepared my lectures for my on-campus classes. I listened to Micah read and I nursed Eli. I chatted with some friends on facebook and texted my sister about my crazy day. I talked and laughed with my amazing husband after our kids went to bed. […]

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