For some kids, learning to read is not as easy as 1-2-3! It’s more like climbing a very hard, tall, rocky, frustrating mountain.
Maybe you’ve climbed this mountain too.
The 48 Steps to reading with your (struggling) reader:
1. Call child. Tell him that it is time to read.
2. Call child again when he refuses to come.
3. Give yourself mental pep-talk (you can do this!!)
4. Let child choose book.
5. Child chooses book.
6. Child throws book after getting stuck on the third word.
7. Child chooses 2nd book.
8. Child starts screaming at you after you tell him to “sound out” 7th word.
10. Tell child to calm down.
11. Child runs out of the room
12. Tell child to come back.
13. Child refuses.
14. You realize that child needs to “reset brain.” Insist your child run around the house.
15. Child screams at you and refuses.
16. Suggest Jumping Jacks.
17. Repeat steps 14 and 15.
18. Take a break to nurse the baby.
19. Go find your child. Fight anxiety that your child has actually run away instead of running around the house.
20. Find child in the backyard. Breathe a sigh of relief.
21. Chat calmly with child about how he needs to work through his “brain funk” by moving his body.
22. Child decides to “move his body.”
23. Give enthusiastic praise as child spins on swing, jumps on trampline in a a circle, and hangs from the top of the swingset like a monkey.
24. Child feels better.
25. Go back inside.
26. Child chooses 3rd book, one that he has read before.
27. Open book. Realize that there is an “Instructions for Early Readers” page.
28. Read page quickly to yourself and realize you have been doing everything “wrong” with your early reader.
29. Feel lots of guilt.
30. Child starts reading.
31. Resist urge to correct.
32. Resist urge to say “sound it out” every 2. 5 words.
33. Say GREAT JOB!!! every time you finish a page.
34. Give high fives!
35. Laugh with child at the funny parts.
36. Say “that’s a bossy ‘e'”
37. Say “sound it out.”
38. Wait calmly and silently while child screams at you and then buries head in the couch.
39. Wait some more.
40. When child resurfaces, repeat steps 36-39 twice.
41. Say, “You’re doing great!”
42. Say, “Only 2 more pages!”
43. Turn the page. Realize you lied.
44. Repeat steps 41-42.
45. Repeat steps 38-39.
46. Finish book.
47. Give high five!
48. Take five deep breaths and make yourself a cup of coffee.
Helping your struggling reader is no joke. Hang in there, mama. I’m right there with you.